Charity Event! National Day of Service with Metallica and All Within My Hands!

Hi everyone! Wanted to share something cool that Danny & I did today!

I’m sure most of you have heard of a little band called Metallica, right? They’re one of Danny’s favorite bands, so when I heard about this opportunity I knew we had to join in!

Metallica has a charity foundation called “All Within My Hands“. Today was the first ever “National Day of Service” for AWMH and they helped Metallica fans across the country team up with different volunteer opportunities in their community.
We went out to Commerce and volunteered with the Los Angeles National Food Bank and helped create food boxes that will be given out to local senior citizens!
Below are some pictures of us at the event – we were on cardboard clean up duty! We had so much fun, got a good work out in, and earned some getting into heaven points – you know crazy Metal fans need as much help as they can get 😉

This was a really special event for us to be part of, not only because we got to do it together & because of the Metallica connection, but as many of you might know, Danny works for a non-profit organization & I hope you can tell from some of my previous posts that volunteer work is very important to me. Now that I’m out of school for the summer I hope to find more time to volunteer for causes I’m passionate about. If any of you know of any opportunities, please let me know!

On another note, thank you to everyone that participated in my Barks of Love research! I got an A in the class & it’s all thanks to you! Well, I might have had something to do with it, hehe, anywho! Enjoy the pictures! Happy Wednesday!

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It’s that time of the year again…

Hello all! It’s that time of year again where I ask you to help me with a survey for school!
If you didn’t already know, I’m currently working towards my MA in Communication Studies, emphasis in Tourism & Entertainment at CSU Fullerton.

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The aforementioned project is for my Communication Management class, and the 10 question survey will focus on social media and Barks of Love – a local non-profit that helps find dogs foster and permanent homes. Please click on the link below & share it with as many people as possible. Please feel free to comment below any questions you may have – thank you!!!!

Barks of Love – Social Media Survey 

Mini Book Review! You’re Making Me Hate You by Corey Taylor

Hi everyone!
Hope you’re all doing well! As you can see by the title, this is not a Sunday Book Club Review. This book is not from my BOOK LIST, it was recommended by my boyfriend, hence, does not get the full Sunday Book Club treatment. I’m generally a very quick reader – when I actually have time to read – but the process of taking notes to create a review slows me down, so I keep some books set aside to breeze through just for fun – & this is one of them! I really enjoyed this book & thought it was worth sharing with you 🙂 Keep reading for some quick thoughts!

As the lead singer of not one, but two famous bands, Slipknot & Stone Sour – Corey Taylor has found success. Additionally, his other books are New York Times bestsellers, so this dude is clearly doing something right. I’m not familiar with his music, but my boyfriend is a fan & was excited to have me get a glimpse into Taylor’s mindset. He knew I’d agree with most everything & see the humor overall – and he was right.

Warning – this book is not for the overly sensitive, the clutch-my-pearls type, the posh, the uptight, the prude, the Instagram Influencer that cares what everyone thinks. Corey Taylor gives not one fuck what you think. He roasts everyone & everything that has ever irritated him while also giving some background on his early years and current life. His quick quips and witty cynicism made me laugh out loud while reading. To some, Taylor may come off as “preachy” or a hypocrite, but he never hesitates to be self-deprecating & admit he’s part of the problem too.

The main issue I had with this book, the structure, was similar to my issues with Bossypants by Tina Fey, & is really no fault of either author. These celebrity memoir type books don’t quite hold my attention because there’s no plot. Each chapter tells a little story & ends. What’s making me want to read the next chapter other than curiosity to see what else they have to say? If I’m enjoying their outlook, why would I speed through it? This book took me almost ONE YEAR to finish reading because I kept stopping & starting. It sounds mean to say I lost interest because I really did find it entertaining and enjoyable, but there was no PULL to keep reading it – I hope that makes sense.

Definitely pick this book up if you’re constantly fed up with the state of the world, are looking for a good laugh, don’t mind the foul language, and can stomach some criticism. Ultimately, Taylor is just asking for us all to be a little kinder to each other & use some logic when we go about our daily lives. Not the message you think would be coming from the lead singer of Slipknot, right? I’ll leave you with this excerpt…

“So what’s the fucking moral of this goddamn book? ‘Everything sucks, so fuck it’?…The cold fact is that we are a global, multicultural, rainbow-hued tribe of fucking dicks…Someday maybe we’ll right this ship of fools and seek out smoother waters, cooler breezes, and better climes…Life doesn’t have to be rocket science, and being able to think & act like better human beings isn’t too much to hope for.”

Please help – Grad School!

Hello all! It’s that time of the year for students – FINALS!!! I’m in the process of writing a TWENTY page final for my Tourism Attractions class at CSU Fullerton. This paper focuses on the Marketing and promotional techniques used by a local attraction – Glen Ivy Hot Springs. Part of the paper requires me to conduct a survey, which you will find below!

Please click HERE to take my super short survey & help me finish this paper!!

Thank you to all who participate, you are amazing people!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone!!

I know this holiday’s origins are controversial *cue Iron Maiden’s “Run to the Hills”* but I hope you all have a wonderful holiday spending time with your loved ones!

If, like me, you’re preparing for finals, take a break today & try to de-stress – I’m sure you deserve it!

Enjoy your day, eat lots of delicious food, & leave me a comment letting me know how you celebrated!

Veteran’s Day – How you can help!

Today America celebrates Veteran’s Day so this post is dedicated to all of those that have  bravely served our country!

I’m including some links below to posts about Charity work I’ve done with a military focus & a post about some shirts you can buy to support military charities. Hopefully this will encourage you all to show some support to these wonderful companies that are striving to help our military members and their families.

Happy 4th of July! @TAPSOrg @Macys @GotYourSix
Event Recap – @Macys #ChandlerFashionSquare supports @GotYourSix & @TAPSorg
Featured! Miss Al-Leigh on TAPS News
Event Recap – Charity! TAPS at the Disney 1/2 Marathon
Veteran’s Day: Shirts to show your Support!

I’ve also included a little playlist of “inspired” songs for this Veteran’s Day – fair warning – some of these are TEAR JERKERS!
IMG_3902What do you think? What charities do you support? Any other songs I could’ve added to this list? Please let me know, thanks for reading!

 

 

#MeToo

As many of you may know, in the wake of the Harvey Weinstein scandal, women are taking to social media with the message of #MeToo to indicate that they also have been the victims of sexual abuse/harassment/assault. This is being done in the hopes that people will see the scope of the problem & realize that this is a very widespread problem that has hit nearly all women in some way.

Although I previously have spoken about my experience with domestic violence, I never really go into much detail, for a few reasons.
1. This is MY story & I will share what I want, with who I want, when I feel comfortable. While I 100% see the value in speaking out to shut down someone like Harvey Weinstein, that is not my situation. There is no legal action that could be brought upon my abuser any more, I am safe, I am happy, & I feel like my healing is better done through other methods, rather than sharing with the internet. Although, again, I support those that choose to speak out & search for healing & help in whatever ways they think best.
2. I’m not 100% convinced that randomly discussing private problems on public forums does anything except spread my business around & drudge up memories I’m trying to move past. If I volunteer for a charity, like I did with TAPS in July, & it seems relevant to mention WHY I’m invested in a charity like that, then yes, I will explain a little.
3. I want to live my life forward. I don’t want to spend creative energy on posts & videos about something that makes me sad. I want to talk to you guys about amazing books I’m reading, or fun make up looks, or new music I can’t stop listening to!

Why then, am I writing this now?

As I’ve watched nearly all of my female Facebook friends come forward with #MeToo posts, I’ve considered joining them, but have mixed emotions for the above reasons. I have enjoyed posts that say, “Survivors don’t owe you their story” or that men should be part of this narrative as well, but one status in particular struck a nerve. The person wrote, “Please don’t be afraid to speak up. You let that person win by remaining silent”

OH HELL NO.
OH HELLLLLLLLLL NO.
OH. HELL. NO!

This person meant well & has a good heart, but statements like these are why I tend to shy away from putting my personal beliefs on the internet. Even with the best intentions, you never know who you’ll offend/trigger. Triggering & offending people on the internet is a topic we can discuss another day. I’m not here to offer a solution. I’m not saying, “Oh because we never know who you’ll offend or trigger, we should all stay silent!” NOPE. Not here to say that at all. What I am here to do is respond to this person’s statement because it made me FEEL. SO. MUCH. that a simple FB status wasn’t going to cut it.

As mentioned above, Survivors don’t owe anyone their story. My story is just that – MINE. MY journey. MY healing process. MY life. MY CHOICE. Choosing to live my own way is something my abuser took away from me. Even after we broke up, I lived in fear of making my own decisions because I was never sure which one was going to cause him to reach out to me – something he continues to do periodically even now, even though we’ve been broken up for 4 years. Which selfie would get “Liked” almost immediately after posting it? Would a different one elicit a comment or, worse, a text? How do I prove that I DON’T WANT THIS?!!?
This was at a time in my recovery where I did not understand that I really have nothing to do with his interactions with me. I could’ve posted a picture of cheese & crackers & he would’ve reached out just to prove that he was still watching & could elicit a response from me, which meant attention for him. For those wondering why this individual was not blocked, trust me, that tactic was tried with negative results & now it’s merely an irritation, rather than a full on stressor like it used to be.

The bottom line is…

I have made the choice to be the heroine of my story – a tagline I’m sure you’re familiar with, if you’re familiar with this blog. Thank you to Nora Ephron for inspiring me with the quote, “Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim”. To the well meaning FB motivator urging “me” not to be afraid to speak up & saying that “I’m” letting my abuser win by remaining silent…I appreciate what you’re trying to do, but you don’t get to dictate who wins and loses in a game you aren’t even playing. My abuser will not win – no matter what. If I stay silent or shout my story from the rooftops of Orange County, that is my choice – something my abuser will never take from me again. Every day I live on my own terms, I WIN. Not him, never again. This is my game. I am the winner, I am the champion, I am victorious, a fighter, a heroine.

Edit: I want to make really clear, this is my response to that statement as I interpreted it regarding my current situation. I fully support & encourage speaking out about any form of abuse and support those on the very difficult road from victim to hero/heroine. If I had my life to live over, I would’ve spoken up, I would’ve taken legal action, but I didn’t, & it’s too late for me now. I will never know the victory of having my abuser formally punished, so I have to take my victories in other ways. Just wanted to make clear that I’m not trying to shame anyone into silence, this was a response geared with my current situation specifically in mind.